Caregiver Pain

Things are getting worse. Getting her up is harder. Her feet don’t work. She has to stay in bed. Cousin J is here to help. He loves her. He wraps his arms around her and muscles her into position when she slides down. She’s not talking any more. Back aches. It’s hard to move, let […]

Shattered Space

Spent the day in the Emergency Room as an advocate for a family member. Lots of pain in there, physical and emotional. One can only sympathize with those in pain. Empathy, to feel what another person feels, is impossible. Physical pain is a private, unsharable phenomenon. One can only understand it when one has it. There […]

Behind the Curtain

Today’s watercolor experiment: another ‘stab’ at pain (pun intended): I like to understand. Slowly things come into focus. The first thing that came to my mind when I was told, “you have a kidney stone,” was a small rock inside my kidney. Then my doc said, “the pain stops once the stone leaves the ureter and […]

New Respect

Here is my entry into the it-was-a dark-and-stormy-night, worst-opening-line competition:  Pain… that’s what I was in, in spades. It started as discomfort and gradually grew. I am familiar with the pain scale, along with the icons depicting a person’s face without pain (#1) all the way to pain that a person could not stand (#10). […]


Joy is sick. Within hours, her scratchy throat bloomed to a 101.9 fever. Pain. Throbbing headache. She could not find a comfortable position. All night long. Today’s watercolor experiment: Process: I walked my pencil point lightly around the contour of two hands holding the feverish head I would paint. I began painting the pulsating-temple headache with […]